{"id":57,"date":"2020-06-29T15:57:37","date_gmt":"2020-06-29T20:57:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp.stolaf.edu\/sexual-respect-initiative\/?page_id=57"},"modified":"2023-06-07T08:36:02","modified_gmt":"2023-06-07T13:36:02","slug":"responding-to-victim-blaming","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/wp.stolaf.edu\/sexual-respect-initiative\/secondary-tertiary-resources\/responding-to-victim-blaming\/","title":{"rendered":"Responding to Victim-Blaming"},"content":{"rendered":"<div data-modular-content-collection><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Victim-blaming is the attitude that victims are responsible for the assault, rather than their perpetrator. This attitude is harmful and suggests that the victim did something to elicit the domestic violence or harassment that occurred. Victim-blaming can take on a variety of forms, including skepticism or disbelief and implicit or explicit blame. It can also be expressed through phrases such as \u201cyou should have had less to drink\u201d, \u201cwhat were you wearing?\u201d, \u201cdid you do anything that could have been misinterpreted?\u201d, \u201cyou need to be more assertive\u201d, \u201cwhy didn\u2019t you fight back?\u201d, or \u201cwhy were you alone with them?\u201d.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here are some examples and phrases that affirm survivors experiences:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cIt took a lot of courage to tell me about this\u201d<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cThis is not your fault\u201d<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cI care about you and am here to listen\u201d<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cHow can I best support you during this time? Are there any resources you need?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Most importantly, remember to acknowledge the difficulty of sharing stories of trauma and violence, believe survivors and offer compassion, be careful with the language you use, and inform the survivor of their resources and options.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-embed wp-embed--lazy\">\n<div class=\"wp-embed-wrap\">\n<figure class=\"wp-embed-lazy wp-embed-lazy--low-res\" data-js=\"lazyload-embed\" data-embed-provider=\"youtube\" > \t<a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=OshTTrS-cbA\" data-embed-href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/OshTTrS-cbA?autoplay=1&#038;autohide=1&#038;fs=1&#038;modestbranding=1&#038;showinfo=0&#038;controls=2&#038;autoplay=1&#038;rel=0&#038;theme=light&#038;vq=hd720\" class=\"wp-embed-lazy__trigger\" data-js=\"lazyload-trigger\" title=\"Survivor Chanel Miller says victim blaming attitudes must change | 60 Minutes Australia\" data-embed-id=\"OshTTrS-cbA\"> \t\t<img decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-embed-lazy__image lazyload\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/i.ytimg.com\/vi\/OshTTrS-cbA\/0.jpg\" alt=\"Survivor Chanel Miller says victim blaming attitudes must change | 60 Minutes Australia\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-embed-lazy__caption\"> \t\t\t<i class=\"wp-embed-lazy__icon icon icon-play\"><\/i> \t\t\t<span class=\"wp-embed-lazy__trigger-label\">Play Video<\/span> \t\t\t<span class=\"wp-embed-lazy__title\">Survivor Chanel Miller says victim blaming attitudes must change | 60 Minutes Australia<\/span> \t\t<\/figcaption><\/a> <\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><!-- begin-migrated-from-panel-builder --><!-- end-migrated-from-panel-builder --><\/p>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Victim-blaming is the attitude that victims are responsible for the assault, rather than their perpetrator. This attitude is harmful and suggests that the victim did something to elicit the domestic [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3911,"featured_media":0,"parent":362,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"class_list":["post-57","page","type-page","status-publish","hentry"],"acf":[],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/wp.stolaf.edu\/sexual-respect-initiative\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/57","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/wp.stolaf.edu\/sexual-respect-initiative\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/wp.stolaf.edu\/sexual-respect-initiative\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wp.stolaf.edu\/sexual-respect-initiative\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3911"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wp.stolaf.edu\/sexual-respect-initiative\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=57"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/wp.stolaf.edu\/sexual-respect-initiative\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/57\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":708,"href":"https:\/\/wp.stolaf.edu\/sexual-respect-initiative\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/57\/revisions\/708"}],"up":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wp.stolaf.edu\/sexual-respect-initiative\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/362"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/wp.stolaf.edu\/sexual-respect-initiative\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=57"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}