3. Take ownership. Boundaries are yours to set and hold. You decide what you need and what you want to do if you’re not being treated the way you want to be.
No one else can decide what is acceptable to you besides you. If someone isn’t respecting your boundaries, you don’t have to wait helplessly until they do. You can take action to take care of yourself. You have more power than you realize, but you have to stop blaming others and start taking ownership of your life.
We, as humans, will do a lot to hold onto our attachments. It’s not easy to let people go. It’s scary to set boundaries and risk that people will leave.
Rather than accepting that someone doesn’t respect what you need and moving on, people will often soften their boundaries to stay in the relationship. This will allow the relationship to continue, but it will not be a fulfilling relationship. If you’ve set consequences for violating your boundaries and the behavior hasn’t stopped, you may have to accept that the relationship isn’t going to work for you.