If you’re so stressed that you don’t have the time or energy to devote to self-care, that’s when you need replenishment the most! Prioritizing self-care is a decision that only you can make, and changing behavior can take some effort. These are some tips to help make changes and maintain them.
- Set a goal: Be specific about what you’d like to try. E.g. spend 5 minutes a day focusing on breathing, or hang out with friends and not think about work 3 times a week.
- Make a plan: How will you meet your goal? What are the necessary steps? Breaking your goal into incremental steps will make it feel more manageable.
- Write it down: Just writing down your plan increases your chances of success by 30%. Telling other people will increase the likelihood of following through even more.
- Get support: Find a “buddy” who will engage in your plan with you, or find a role model, mentor, or coach.
- Reward actions, not results! It’s important to reinforce yourself for taking positive steps, rather than focusing exclusively on achieving your end goal.
- Turn bad days into good data: Try to view setbacks as information. What happened and how can you handle it differently? Get curious, not depressed! Give the new behavior at least three tries before giving up on it.
Change Anything: The New Science of Personal Success by Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, David Maxfield, and Ron McMillan